The hidden things in life

Writing here raises some questions, like who reads this and since I only know a fraction of the answer of this, then who do I write for?

It can be self, and even the manifest ego of same, but it could also be to just pick a topic and “go for it”! To reveal more of self or not, is a very good question too. There is risk in this, but also inherent honesty.

But where is the truth in any given situation? I find I sometimes get to it by blundering into situations, where, as they say “angels would fear to tread”.

And on reflection often I reckon I’ve a good bunch of very pretty guardian angels that literally facilitate “exiting” from these situations in a reasonably elegant manner with little damage to self.

The price I pay shines through though as an increasing willingness to take emotional and even spiritual risks, and thus the only constant is change, along with an ever growing sense of wonder and humility – because I know so little about not very much!

If I could photograph my angels I fancy their demeanour would be as portrayed in this dreamy photo. And who is to say these two souls are not angels. I simply assume they’re not, but doubt creeps in because I’m sure I never expected this result on pressing the shutter. It could be a camera never lies…

The problem or inconsistency surely arises often when we function from the ego – when we fail to discern the nature of reality…

Or it can be all about context too! We assume here the leaf landed after the ice formed, but what if we’d never experienced an autumn or a winter…

And then there is history. We may not be at a crossroads, but simply out early on the dawn of a winter’s day…

For myself I’ll often take in a comment such as made recently by my friend Bob McKerrow “..somehow, I don’t think the Crusades are over”, and inadvertently file it in my subconscious.

And on that occasion my contextualisation was in relation to trouble spots of the world.

But on more recently examining something seemingly unrelated on the home front, namely research on prayer ministry organisations in New Zealand, I unexpectedly learnt from yet another learned and unrelated source, “.. prayer ministry!!!! That’s where the crusades do come from”.

Google itself says it fails to index deep knowledge, so you won’t find that sort of comment idly surfing the web.

Thus quietly as if by stealth medieval thinking pervades through generations, ingraining intolerance under the guise of compassion, to be present right at my back door!

Now I can’t prove or disprove the above, and I may stir up a hornet’s nest and ruffle the feathers of some of my readers as I shine light on what it seems many would prefer darkness presides over. But I’m “over it” – yet another type of injustice, because primairily a little more research revealed, again from a professional, that psychotherapy techniques based on medieval concepts actually cause more problems than they solve in rehab. institutions.

Yet, I believe prayer does work, and far from wishing to be negative about the above I offer an alternative: a proven 10-15 step programme type of prayer:

God grant me the courage to change the things I can..
the serenity to accept the things I cannot..
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Alcoholics Anonymous etc. mantra

It seems we need an honesty in application like AA employs, based on knowing the origination of an organisation or action or teaching. It is not enough to be well meaning.

From an AA web site:

1] We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
2] Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3] Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4] Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5] Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6] Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7] Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8] Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9] Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10] Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11] Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12] Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

I love it as it has such a high vibration and lightness about it, and has been so successful it’s now employed as a technique to aid the cure of every addiction or dependency malaise under the sun [gambling being one of the toughest].

More on the Twelve-Step Program set of guiding principles that has worked for millions of people >>

So how often do we fail to see the wood for the trees…

And are we all emotionally available? If we’re not we’re not only limiting our possibilities, but can cause untold grief totally unaware we are doing so, clinically or otherwise!

Mea Culpa – I have at times in my life been emotionally unavailable!

Ignorance is never an excuse either, and to counteract it we need constant vigilance, for this is the cornerstone of freedom.

So don’t take up arms, but observe self and find discernment that can be trusted residing within. It takes reflection and work. For me, a life’s work.
…often helped by standing alone facing the winds of the world…


Independence from Social Programming

Safeguards against being programmed by society are:

1] emotional detachment in which all information is viewed as provisional, 2] awareness that ordinary mentalization is unable to discern perception from essence, 3] knowing that the wolf in sheep’s clothing often hides beneath sheep’s clothing. This suspension of belief is the practical application of the basic dictum to “wear the world like a light garment” is a mode of attention that nonetheless still allows spontaneous interaction and function in society.

Reality, Spirituality and Modern Man
David R. Hawkins.

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  4 comments for “The hidden things in life

  1. August 1, 2011 at 9:44 pm

    Kia ora Donald,
    Many interesting and soul searching thoughts to ponder here e hoa. I think when we have these places in which we share there is a natural sort of tendency to want to be, or come across, as the “hero” of our journey. Much more difficult to be really and truly honest, maybe not as exciting as the “novel” we would like, but at least we can read it ourselves and not cringe. So that is the path I found myself upon, without even knowing why. Looking back now I guess it was the only place I could be emotionally available, even if only to myself. Until my wife confronted me and demanded more of me I did not even realize the wounds I had carried around for so many years. Writing honestly, or trying as hard as possible to do so, gave me a solid point of reference to build from, and literally return to being present for the people I love the most. Being cognizant of that is a never ending but rewarding process.
    As I ususally have a flask of some fine whiskey sloshing around in my pack I shall rerain from discussing AA 🙂 – aside from writing it is a fine philosophy to aspire to, defining what God means within it a bit more difficult for me. Though something I feel much closer to in the mountains with a pack on my back. Though even there I can still stuff it up, it just doesn’t seem to take as long to get my head around my mistakes and move on there, as it does out here. Kia kah e hoa.

    • Donald Lousley
      August 2, 2011 at 9:39 pm

      Hi Robb

      A soul searching reply you’ve made too!

      … which engenders yet more in my soul!

      You obviously have a treasure in Tara, especially that she was able to “confront” as you say, re emotional availability.

      It’s a huge topic, and I know in my own case I’ve “not been there” for years at a time [and no one noted it that I recall].

      But on reflection perhaps the key point to establish is the cause, be it an event in childhood or more recently, or some sort of on-going way of life visited on us as kids – a situation or series of we do not have the skills to process at the time, so we store it in our bodies, and in our spirit even.

      But like the birth of a river – sooner or later it surfaces!

      Currently taking a break in our hinterland and today heading deeper into Southland – Fiordland beckons! Searching for my truth I think in the land of some of my ancestors – notably my grandmother and father. Both spent a lot of time down here. I feel “at home”!

      As Bob has said too “Shield Country”, at least in the eastern portions.



  2. August 4, 2011 at 1:30 am

    Reading commentary such as yours makes me realise just how much of life I have missed, or should that be just how lucky I have been, or perhaps as simple as I chose a good track.

    I am a sometime writer of blogs and your question “Who do I write for?” is one that has often passed through the mires of my skull. Closest I have come to a satisfactory answer, “It changes.”

    If I am honest with myself, it is a safety valve as much as anything; to relieve tedium, anger, frustration, ignorance, and even in the hope of a damned good argument.

    The problem for me is not the gambling (other than the occasional Lotto ticket), or the drinking (an Old Dark of an evening). It is the lack of solitude. As an ex-country man living in the city now for a lot longer than I care to recall (45 years about) there are just too many people and not enough places.

    Getting out into a quiet glade in the Whirinaki, or sitting alone on the top of Pukemoremore are long-past pleasures.

    Aue! Ka kite. The need to earn a crust calls…

    • Donald Lousley
      August 4, 2011 at 5:46 pm

      Hi Probligo

      Thanks for your comment.

      Yes a “damned good argument” is something to consider. At least with Comments turned on, if someone from a prayer ministry group wanders by… well I’d welcome some alternatives to my “take” [btw I’m thankfully not afflicted with the need for AA, and although I do gamble, money or anything is not at stake – more my sanity!].

      But also, we’re not quite there yet in blogging as many hesitate to type up something. It’ll come, just as buying air tickets on-line is now common-place.

      My research into blogging a few years ago [work related as I build web sites] led to reading sometimes complex paper tomes, and one writer was of the opinion that there is more content published daily on the Internet than there are people to read it! This makes a strong case for clarity, before we even ponder who we write for.

      While you pine for solitude in populated places, I’m on my guard to avoid becoming a recluse [how many people are about then becomes academic?]. I guess both our situations admitted to, define the on-going need to be balanced.



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